Birmingham Moms Blog :: Introducing Kristin M

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Birmingham

I have lived in the Birmingham area all my life. The farthest I have ever gone was when I went to the University of Montevallo. Birmingham is such a great place to live because you can experience city life with a small town feel. I’m always finding new places to go and things to do. Even though I have lived here all my life, I still don’t consider myself 100% Southern. Both of my parents are originally from central Illinois and moved here right before I was born, so I was raised in the South by two Midwesterners. I feel like I have experienced the best of both worlds. I am fascinated by what I am continuing to learn about Southern culture–like peanuts in Coke, for example. I never knew that was a thing until recently. 

Moms

I am a stepmom, and sometimes that feels like a bad word. Stepmoms can get a bad rap: we’re not “real” moms, we’re trying too hard (or not hard enough), or we want to take Mom’s place. I don’t know of anyone who grows up dreaming about being a stepmom. It can be a tough gig. I do know of lots of women who grow up dreaming about being a mom, but that doesn’t always go as planned. Even though this isn’t the mom experience I pictured, I am so thankful to have my stepdaughters in my life. And I would never want to take anything away from them or their relationships with their mom. Regardless of whether you’re a “real” mom, stepmom, or adoptive mom, the end goal is always the same. You have been given a child to care for and love. As long as your kids are happy and healthy, it doesn’t matter what your family tree looks like. 

My family: Kaylan, Me, Brad, Gracie, Copper and Yogi

Blog

I am so excited that Birmingham Moms Blog is going to exist. I’m even more excited that I get to write for it. When I first became a stepmom, I searched the internet for everything from words of encouragement to ideas to entertain my girls. (At that point, I didn’t have much experience with throwing karate birthday parties.) I would have loved to find a collection of ideas and words of inspiration from local moms. I also hoped to find women with stories similar to mine. Now I search for women also struggling with infertility. This is such a difficult topic to discuss, and I understand why women are reluctant to share. I have found a few women willing to make their journey public, and a couple are right here in Birmingham. There’s just something about finding someone going through what you’re going through, and then finding out they live where you do. It gives me a sense of comfort, like being home. You know they just get it. I am hoping that by being a part of Birmingham Moms Blog, I can bring that same type of comfort to other stepmoms and moms-to-be. I’ve been there, and I get it.  

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Kristin has lovingly called Birmingham or the surrounding areas home all her life. She and her husband, Brad, were married in 2015. That day she also became stepmother to Brad's two daughters, Kaylan (16) and Gracie (10). Kristin and Brad have been trying to have a baby for almost 2 years. Being a new wife, new stepmom, and struggling with infertility has introduced Kristin to a new set of challenges in a short amount of time. She is enjoying learning about and settling into her new roles. When she's not busy figuring out her new normal she loves cooking, baking, and eating. She also loves to travel, watch a good tv series, read, and write. She is looking forward to connecting to other Birmingham Moms, Stepmoms and Moms-to-be.